Find your magic and don’t stop following it.
Find your magic and don’t stop following it.
I know I already did a Valentine’s Day look but it never hurts to have options right? This look ended up reminding me of chocolate covered strawberries, which I love any day of the year, regardless of whether or not it’s Valentine’s Day, if they were gifted to me, or if I bought them for myself. By the way, this post is dedicated to all my single ladies and people in situationships.Food Network
It’d be nice if our love lives could neatly organize themselves into cozy perfect arrangements in time for all the major holidays but I’m here to say that if that doesn’t happen, so what?
Sometimes life is weird and that doesn’t suddenly stop on Valentine’s Day. The days of yore when people would meet in cute coffee shops and hit it off swimmingly with complete strangers who were both sexy yet totally approachable seem to be relegated to romantic comedies and sitcoms of the past. Today’s singles virtually traverse through Tinder. Some hope for the elusive DM on other social media. Maybe you swiped left and he swiped right or vise versa. Romance is as buried in cyber code as our social media personas. I choose not to drown in selfies and hashtags this year.
Though I wish I could always have a hot date and look like the model above as much as the next girl on most days, I choose to not be bogged down by what ifs or measure myself by the health of my relationship. If I feel like going on a date and it just so happens to be Valentine’s Day, great but it doesn’t make it better or more meaningful than any other date. Will I obsess over my outfit if I do? Probably; I’m still human.Fake Leather
Relationships should not be the measurement by which we rate our worth…so I decided to vow to always do something special for myself on holidays and sometimes just because. If something else happens with someone else… Awesome! It becomes more of a surprise that way. On to the look!
I know I always say this, but this look was surprisingly easy to do. As always, one eye gave me more trouble than the other, but it’s nothing blending can’t solve. Blending can solve almost anything it seems at times.
I began by priming my lids as usual with concealer. Use your favorite, and I always recommend a full coverage one so that shadows will pop and last all day. Then I dusted my lids with the first neutral color in the Wet n’ Wild Au Naturel Palette in Nude Awakening.
I then used Shooting Star in the Dream St Palette by Kathleen Lights x ColourPop in my crease. I used the light pink shade in the Avant Pop NYX palette, in Art Throb, above, all over my lid.
I used the burgundy shade in the Au Naturel palette to deepen my crease. I then used Spark in Dream St., the matte neon red, on the outer half of my eye leading into the crease.
Lastly, I used Elfish, a Matte deep brown, in the outer corner of the eye to wing it out. I then used Ciate London’s Fierce Flicks liner to line my lids and do a cat eye. If you like to tight line, do it up, but I can’t ever master that technique without creating a teary mess.
I then used They’re Real mascara by Benefit, but go ahead and use whichever you like. For lips I used Too Faced’s Melted Latex Liquefied High Shine Lipstick in Strange Love, a fitting title for many Valentine’s Days of my past. I love this deep chocolaty brown shade and though this formula is sticky and had mixed reviews, I actually like it a lot.
Promise me you’ll do something for yourself this Valentine’s Day for no reason at all other than because you love yourself. Buy yourself a bottle of wine or those ridiculously cozy slippers you’ve been eyeing.
Remember, I love you date or no date. It’s just another day, but I’m glad it’s an excuse to buy myself stuff. 😙😍😉💕
What are you doing tomorrow? Netflix? Work? Don’t get bogged down no matter what by manufactured ideals about love!
Love & light
Lately I’ve been seriously considering the long term effects of bad credit. I know it’s Sunday and tomorrow’s a holiday/it’s a three day weekend and saving money doesn’t feel as good as spending it but as Jay Z’s “The Story of OJ” song lyrics clearly delineate:
“You wanna know what’s more important than throwin’ away money at a strip club? Credit.”
The lyrics that follow have been criticized for endorsing a Jewish stereotype:
“You ever wonder why Jewish people own all the property in America? This how they did it.”
Regardless of whether or not that statement is true or offensive, and yes he’s banking on reinforcing a generalization, what is undeniable is the importance and power good credit lends you.
I know I don’t usually do posts about topics this heavy, but hey I’m growing up. I started wrecking my credit early in life and had absolutely zero advice or information about credit, debt, or money management. The only thing I knew was that my Mom set an amazing example of using money wisely, but the insistence of peer pressure and an intense shopping habit took over me. She had a lot of willpower while I wasn’t blessed with nearly as much.
Like many people in their 20s, I ruined my credit to pay for college and whatever my two or three part time jobs couldn’t cover, and I’m barely rebuilding it.
Using credit was fun while it lasted but don’t fall into the trap of thinking that credit is free money. IT’S NOT!!! If you can’t pay back every dollar you’re spending with a credit card don’t do it. It doesn’t matter how good it feels.
What does matter though, is that down the line you can be denied job opportunities, loans for buying a car, and a lease on an apartment,which won’t be the least bit fun and trust me, you will regret every carefree minute your credit cards lent you.
I am adulting more than ever and therefore adjusting more things so that I don’t have to be a typical struggling millennial. I am here to share the wisdom I’ve amassed as a broke girl and shopping addict. I’m barely recovering. Take that as a warning.
Here are 7 tips & tricks I learned:
1. Track your credit score for free and without affecting it with an app/website like Credit Karma or Credit Sesame:
If nothing will guilt you enough into not ruining your credit and continuing on as a spendthrift, an app/website like Credit Sesame or Credit Karma just might. Seeing your score decline before your eyes is a saddening reality and you’ll inevitably begin to raise your score with their recommendations.
If you’re already in the tank like I was, they suggest the best secured credit cards and show you the pros and cons of each and how likely it is that you’ll be approved. I had no idea not having any credit cards is actually a deterrent as having a few you’re paying on time shows you’re a responsible spender and is essential if you’ve already dug yourself a credit hole.
2. Reward yourself with a few established treats. (Not every day)
Establishing a routine and frequenting a few places you go to when you want to treat yourself is a good idea. It’ll prevent you from going to random places and more than one place where you’ll spend aimlessly and go overboard.
If I want to treat myself to a decent lunch I go to either a local ramen place or a local Asian box place, Koran Ramen and The Asian Project.
I know if I step into a random bar or restaurant I’ll end up way more than I intended to. I try to keep these splurgy lunches around $10. When I want to buy a new clothing item, makeup item, etc. I try to only purchase it if I actually need it and keep splurges to birthdays and holidays.
I also try to only frequent a few places like local thrift stores, Marshall’s, Burlington Coat Factory, Ross, TJMaxx, etc. If I’m in a huge department store or similar store it’s too easy to end up buying more than to planned on so I tend to avoid them altogether. (Interestingly enough, I work in one so that proves to be a difficult task.)
3. Have a saving buddy or someone else to keep you accountable and vice versa if they need it.
If you have someone consistently encouraging you / nagging you to save money you’ll be less likely to come home or show up to a coffee date with bags of new makeup, shoes, and clothes. (My drugs of choice). Yes it’s annoying and you could find ways to hide it but eventually they’ll see your new fancy jacket or did that just happen to me way too many times?
Keep them on point too as well as yourself when they point out areas you can improve on.
That’s right, just wait. It’s so hard to do when you just have to have something. Shopping addicts I’m talking to you. Of course if you’re in an emergency and have no laundry to go to an interview tomorrow and no time to do it, or find yourself with only 30 minutes before work and find yourself nowhere near affordable food I’m not going to judge you for splurging a bit.
Circumstantial spending happens and sometimes there’s nothing you can do to help it. I’m talking about waiting on things you really want until you’ve saved some extra cash and/or it’s gone on sale. I know it seems like certain things never do but believe me, almost everything does and a lot of things will not run out. Wait for sale days and those magical emails with deeply discounted codes. Colourpop has incredible sales all the time. You can easily find out about sales and codes by signing up for emails from your favorite stores.
If you haven’t jumped on to the bandwagon of thrifting, what is wrong with you? Used clothes may smell like used clothing shops, which are musty and dusty at times, but hey that’s what washing machines are for.here.
I’ve found many a treasure in the mustiest of Goodwills. As an added bonus, you’re helping to save the environment and many times other worthy causes as in Goodwill, Discovery Shop, and Salvation Army’s cases. If you’re ocd about other people’s germs or just love your friends’ sense of style and they love yours, do a clothing and accessories swap.
6. Use an app that rewards you to indulge your shopping cravings without touching your bank account.
One thing I learned in 2017 that changed the shopping addict game for me is that you can make money to shop by using several apps. My favorite three are Quick Thoughts, Ibotta, and Shopkick. Quick Thoughts is an app where you take 5-30 min surveys which each pay $2.00. One about TV watching habits pays $0.40. Once you reach $10.00 you can redeem it as an Amazon gift card. It’s easy to rack up gift cards and money to spend I’m your spare time. If you shop on Amazon a lot, (and who doesn’t?) you can easily save a lot of your own cash. As long as you only spend what you make it’s a great idea.
Shopkick is an app where you scan items in stores and you can redeem your points for gift cards to Target, Sephora, Starbucks, and a ton of other places. It’s very easy to rack up points as you probably go to stores and walk around the items that are worth points anyways.
Ibotta is an app where you upload pictures of your receipts for money. Once you reach $20.00 you can pay yourself out through PayPal. If you don’t buy the items worth points it’s a bit hard to do bit regardless, eventually you will definitely rack up some extra cash.
7. Use apps religiously.
Why pay more than you have to? If you haven’t downloaded many restaurant’s and store’s apps that reward you, you probably are. If you drink as much coffee as me believe me the Starbucks and/or Coffee Bean app could come in handy. Both apps reward you with a free welcome drink and a birthday reward. Personally, I use the Starbucks app more, simply because their coffee is more caffeinated and therefore gets the job done. I also love racking up a reward every 125 stars because I can splurge on the fanciest drink imaginable or a yummy salad.
Also, free refills on coffee, which is amazing. With apps like Urban Outfitters’ you get 20% off for signing up and can easily rack up tons of $5 rewards by shopping, using the app, and even just visiting the store. Yup, you can get paid to window shop.
Basically, if you put even a little effort into being responsible and a smart spender, it pays. It does sound like something a cheesy motivational speaker would say, but who cares? Who wants to be broke and miserable all the time?
7. Take a set amount out of your paycheck every week or month automatically so you can’t touch it
I know parting with your hard earned money is painful, but what do you think you’re doing when you splurge on a new foundation, drop $20 at a sushi bar, or get your nails done? Learned the unsung joys of delayed gratification. No, putting aside $50 may not feel as good as a fresh mani/pedi or the new Fenty Palette but the $300 that will add up later on will be way more rewarding, believe me. Stick with it. I don’t care I sound like your grandma right now; a penny saved is a penny earned.
I hope this article helped you even a little.
Love you guys and hope your bank accounts grow a little fatter and 2018 is treating you kindly.