Blogmas: How to Deal with Common Awkward Holiday Gathering Mishaps

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Are you attending your boyfriend’s parents’ holiday gathering for the first time? Do you anguish over the questions that are almost intrinsic to holiday gatherings? (How’s school? How’s your job? Where do you see yourself in a few years? Why don’t you have any kids yet? Why aren’t you married yet? Etc. Etc.) 
I know I do! All I want is to eat my pie in peace! I don’t think that’s too much to ask for.

It seems that I’m far from the only one concerned with these conundrums. Here are some great and funny articles I found about how to make the most of the holidays and seeing yourself out of unpleasant situations on BuzzfeedEventbrite, and Styleblueprint.com.

I decided to weigh in on these issues as well and here’s how I suggest you deal with these very common and annoying awkward holiday situations:

Attending an S.O.’s family’s gathering for the first time
Not only are you meeting new members of the family and seeing the whole clan together for the first time, it will take place in a holiday themed setting so stakes are higher. I’ve been there and survived this scenario once or twice. 

Whatever you do don’t ask intrusive questions, criticise or embarrass your S.O., or bring up politics or religion. That goes for every gathering! 

Do dress up and do your best to look your best. That means no old sneakers or two day old greasy hair. Shower, choose an attractive outfit, and highlight your best features. 

Also, it doesn’t hurt to gift your host or hostess with some wine or a nice box of candy everyone can share. 

Smile and be courteous and if asked an intrusive question, shake it off with a vague answer. For example, if asked “When are you getting married?” you can say, “When the time is right.”, “I don’t feel equipped to answer that quite yet.”, etc. That takes the pressure off you and your S.O. and provides no real time reference.
The aunt or uncle who won’t stop asking you about your job, getting married, having kids, etc.

Just as I mentioned above, provide a vague answer such as “When the time is right”. Also, gently see yourself out of the conversation or guide it to general topics. For example, ask the person about him or herself. Another option is to remark how lovely the food is and to switch the conversation over to food and/or ask for a recipe. Remember, you don’t have to answer any questions or even feel obligated to attend a gathering where you feel pressured, anxious, and on an emotional rollercoaster.

If you do go, remember, pay attention to your feelings and take care of yourself. Avoid arguments at all costs. Take a deep breath and be the bigger person should a touchy subject arise.
Avoiding party guests who monopolize your time and/or talk too much

This might be the only time during a holiday gathering to break out a little white lie. I’ve been the sounding board for some seemingly never ending monologues. I won’t call them conversations as  that requires two people. Clingy party guests who don’t know when to shut up have apparently not learned this as they won’t let you get a word in edgewise.

 Here’s when to say, “I forgot something (charger, present, anything!) in my car! Be right back!”, or if that doesn’t work say you have to excuse yourself to the bathroom or have a terrible headache and make a break for it. 

When a fight ensues.

Whatever you do, do not fuel the fire! Tensions are already high and expectations have already been blown. The last thing you want is to sever family ties with certain people forever.

Try defusing the fight by reminding everyone about why you’re gathered to begin with. If all else fails, leave before you get involved. 
When you receive a gift you honestly do not like or a regift

Regardless of whether or not you like the gift, thank the person. The thought really does count. Avoid making any promises about using or wearing the gift of you aren’t actually planning to. Instead make a vague remark such as, “How thoughtful!” which conveys your gratefulness without making any claim to liking the gift. 

That concludes my suggestions on how to deal with awkward holiday situations! If you have any suggestions of your own or any funny awkward family stories, please comment below.

Thanks for reading and I hope your holiday gatherings at straight out of a Hallmark movie! (I mean that in a good way)

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Comprehensive Gift Guide Continued

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My favorite part of the holdiays is honestly holiday baking. Chocolate + peppermint = heaven. πŸ«πŸ¬πŸŽ„ I’m literally obsessed with Food Network’s Holiday Baking Championship.

8. The techie. This year’s tech wathes are so cool, likable, and wearable, you don’t even have to be technologically inclined or even like fitness to like them.

They’re sophisticated, sleek, and smart. My favorite this year, the Misfit Ray in rose gold, pictured above measures distance traveled, steps taken, calories burned, and even sleep cycles. Wouldn’t it be fun to really find out how well you’re sleeping? They’ll make a great gift for any bonafide techie on your list, and could be a great option for fitness freaks too.

9. The parents. I think the goal of gift giving when it comes to family should be making your loved ones’ lives a little happier and showing you care, not out doing one another or seeing who spent the most. That defies the purpose of the season. 

Pay close attention to what your parents need to update and what they’re neglecting. Has Mom been using the same wallet for years? Could Dad’s coat use an upgrade?

A timeless quality wallet or other useful gift is an easy way to show you care.

 10. Teenagers. Teenagers are some of the toughest people to figure out when it comes to gifts, and to appease in general. Remember you were one, and how picky you were? Maybe you only wanted money or specific things? Even though today’s teenagers may be more exposed to technology and the adult workd world than ever, some things remain the same. Teens still love music, makeup, and fashion.

The elegant rose gold Beats by Dre.

Like us, teens still want to impress their friends too. Beats by Dre, a teen’s first high quality palette, or some Nike or other shoes of their preference would be well received.

I would like to remind you even though you’ve heard it before, I’m sure, that gifts should not be at the at the center of your holiday celebration. At the end of the night, it won’t be the presents that will be most remembered, but the quality of time you shared with your loved ones and the memories you made. Make your celebrations count & don’t stress!

More gift ideas to come! I hope you’re enjoying this series. Thanks for reading. Love you all!

Maggie

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A Comprehensive Guide to Holiday Gift Giving (for Everyone On your List)

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Too Faced’s Merry Macarons palette, only available at Ulta. Isn’t it swoon worthy? Perfect for any makeup addict in your life (and me).

As many of you have probably gathered after past holiday seasons, it’s never too early to start thinking about buying your Christmas/holiday presents. Nobody likes a long line, angry coupon ladies, not finding the right size, being perplexed by what to get some of the people on your list, etc. Trust me, I know from working in retail.

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Michael Kors’ Access Bradshaw Rose Gold Tone Smartwatch; A gorgeous & elegant unisex watch for any refined techie.

To hopefully help you on your gift-giving journey this year and make the whole process a little more filled with cheer, as it should be, I’ve compiled a list of my top picks this for every kind of person in our lives. Here we go! πŸ˜ŠπŸŽπŸŽ„

1. Best friend; Sometimes the people closest to you are the hardest ones to buy presents for. The advantage; you know them well. The disadvantage; there’s an inherently greater expectation to get the perfect gift. My tip; pick something you both love to do, and give them something that will enable you to do it together. Are you coffee junkies?

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A DIY cold brew coffee kit would be an awesome gift. So would a personal espresso machine or a year subscription for a monthly dose of gourmet coffee.

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This “coffee sock” cold brew kit can be found on Thrivemarket.com for 10.95

Do you both need some TLC? Get them a gift certificate to your favorite spa. Do you love music? Get them some concert tickets.

2. The makeup lover. There are so many good options for this person. Any makeup junkie knows NYX has some of the best drugstore-brand makeup period. Their soft matte lip creams are beyond good. This lovely box below would be welcomed heartily in any girl’s makeup collection.

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These are tried, tested, and makeup vlogger approved. I’ve used this product too, and I love it all around. Desi Perkins, one of my favorites, just included them in her holiday gift/gifts for yourself haul.

The formula of this lipstick is perfect for when you want a matte lip, but don’t want a super drying finish. My lips are constantly dry, so it’s perfect for me.

3. The cook. Who’s the cook in your life? Your grandma? Yourself? Your boyfriend? Either way, this gift is perfect for the holidays for any home baker.

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This adorable apple pie kit comes with all you need to make a delectable apple pie, and was featured in O, The Oprah Magazine. Find it on Kerbersfarms.com

The kit comes with an all natural pie filling, crust mix, a genuine Pyrex glassΒ pie plate, a kitchen towel, an instruction booklet, and a sustainable wooden crate.

4. The boyfriend/husband/significant other. This is probably the hardest gift to give. Sometimes you know the person’s taste perfectly, but there’s always that ounce of doubt. Especially when the person is picky. You can just never know for sure. I highly suggest making wish lists and trading them. You can never go wrong because no matter what, it’s something he/she actually wants/will use.

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A heart-warming scene from “It’s a Wonderful Life”, one of my favorite holiday movies.

5. The mother in law or father in law. My top recommendation in buying a gift for this person is first, get to know this person a little bit. I know sometimes this isn’t an easy prospect, but trust me, it’ll any family time when you’re expected to interact with this person/people easier.

6. The sophisticated fashion addict. For me, this is the easiest one. I can be assured that pretty much anything I want, will probably sit well with any fashion addict. When it comes to picky or sophisticated fashionistas, finding out who their favorite designer is would be a good start. A candle by their favorite designer would be a lovely gift.

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This candle is described as a feminine and sophisticated scent. At $65, it’s a little pricey, so pick someone who appreciates the finer things in life to give it to πŸ˜‰

The candle’s scent is described as “…leathery violet with vibrant woody notes.” on NeimanMarcus.com, where you can purchase it.

7. The bargain hunter. This is a tough one. I definitely find out their favorite go-to store is for bargains and get them a gift card there. Normally, I’m against gift cards since they’re a bit impersonal, but I think in this case it works.