Blogmas: How to Deal with Common Awkward Holiday Gathering Mishaps

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Are you attending your boyfriend’s parents’ holiday gathering for the first time? Do you anguish over the questions that are almost intrinsic to holiday gatherings? (How’s school? How’s your job? Where do you see yourself in a few years? Why don’t you have any kids yet? Why aren’t you married yet? Etc. Etc.) 
I know I do! All I want is to eat my pie in peace! I don’t think that’s too much to ask for.

It seems that I’m far from the only one concerned with these conundrums. Here are some great and funny articles I found about how to make the most of the holidays and seeing yourself out of unpleasant situations on BuzzfeedEventbrite, and Styleblueprint.com.

I decided to weigh in on these issues as well and here’s how I suggest you deal with these very common and annoying awkward holiday situations:

Attending an S.O.’s family’s gathering for the first time
Not only are you meeting new members of the family and seeing the whole clan together for the first time, it will take place in a holiday themed setting so stakes are higher. I’ve been there and survived this scenario once or twice. 

Whatever you do don’t ask intrusive questions, criticise or embarrass your S.O., or bring up politics or religion. That goes for every gathering! 

Do dress up and do your best to look your best. That means no old sneakers or two day old greasy hair. Shower, choose an attractive outfit, and highlight your best features. 

Also, it doesn’t hurt to gift your host or hostess with some wine or a nice box of candy everyone can share. 

Smile and be courteous and if asked an intrusive question, shake it off with a vague answer. For example, if asked “When are you getting married?” you can say, “When the time is right.”, “I don’t feel equipped to answer that quite yet.”, etc. That takes the pressure off you and your S.O. and provides no real time reference.
The aunt or uncle who won’t stop asking you about your job, getting married, having kids, etc.

Just as I mentioned above, provide a vague answer such as “When the time is right”. Also, gently see yourself out of the conversation or guide it to general topics. For example, ask the person about him or herself. Another option is to remark how lovely the food is and to switch the conversation over to food and/or ask for a recipe. Remember, you don’t have to answer any questions or even feel obligated to attend a gathering where you feel pressured, anxious, and on an emotional rollercoaster.

If you do go, remember, pay attention to your feelings and take care of yourself. Avoid arguments at all costs. Take a deep breath and be the bigger person should a touchy subject arise.
Avoiding party guests who monopolize your time and/or talk too much

This might be the only time during a holiday gathering to break out a little white lie. I’ve been the sounding board for some seemingly never ending monologues. I won’t call them conversations as  that requires two people. Clingy party guests who don’t know when to shut up have apparently not learned this as they won’t let you get a word in edgewise.

 Here’s when to say, “I forgot something (charger, present, anything!) in my car! Be right back!”, or if that doesn’t work say you have to excuse yourself to the bathroom or have a terrible headache and make a break for it. 

When a fight ensues.

Whatever you do, do not fuel the fire! Tensions are already high and expectations have already been blown. The last thing you want is to sever family ties with certain people forever.

Try defusing the fight by reminding everyone about why you’re gathered to begin with. If all else fails, leave before you get involved. 
When you receive a gift you honestly do not like or a regift

Regardless of whether or not you like the gift, thank the person. The thought really does count. Avoid making any promises about using or wearing the gift of you aren’t actually planning to. Instead make a vague remark such as, “How thoughtful!” which conveys your gratefulness without making any claim to liking the gift. 

That concludes my suggestions on how to deal with awkward holiday situations! If you have any suggestions of your own or any funny awkward family stories, please comment below.

Thanks for reading and I hope your holiday gatherings at straight out of a Hallmark movie! (I mean that in a good way)

🎄🎄⛄⛄🎁🎁

Thanksgiving / Holiday Festive Makeup Look with All Affordable Products

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Today I was in a festive mood so I decided to put together a Thanksgiving / holiday themed look.

I’ve been playing around with Milani’s Bella Eyes Gel Powder shadows for a while and I’m really loving the formula. It’s creamy, very pigmented, and the shimmery shades are very reflective.

The cream one, Bella Ivory, is perfect for the inner corner, below.

Image found on Ebay.com. Milani Gel Powder Eyeshadow in Bella Ivory

They come in a large variety of shades including those below:

Photo from Vampyvarnish.com. $4.39 on Walgreens.com & elsewhere.

The bronze shadow and the cream one are my favorites. I used the bronze one, Bella Copper, below, on my entire lid today. 

Milani’s Gel Powder Shadow in Bella Copper. Image from temptalia.com. Perfect for fall.

The look was actually super easy to do but does require a lot of blending and patience. Make sure to start off lightly with your shadows and build the intensity gradually or it can be easy to create a mess that’s barely fixable. 

The good news though, is that wet wipes fix everything, and you can always start over. As Tati, one of my favorite beauty gurus recently said in a video, “It’s just makeup!” I began by priming my eyelids with concealer. I used Wet n Wild’s Photo Focus concealer, below.

Wet n Wild’s Photo Focus concealer. 3.99 at Walgreen’s & elsewhere.

I then used the third medium brown color in e.l.f.’s Golden Goddess eyeshadow quad, below, labeled “crease” in my crease.

Image from makeupmoment.com. Love this quad. Their review 

here.

I used the second shade, labeled “lid” to soften up the edges all along my crease and allover the lid.

Here’s a quick tip: to get more pigmentation out of these shadows, crush a corner and use the loose powder packed onto the lid wherever you want the most intensity. 

On the outer corner I used the last shade, a dark chocolate to intensify it and smoke it out into a cat eye shape.

I also used a definer brush to smokoe out the lower lash line with that same shade.

I sprayed Urban Decay’s All Nighter Setting Spray onto my index finger, and packed the Milani Gel Powder shadow I mentioned before onto my entire lid. Here are swatches of the shadow below:

With flash.

Without flash.

With flash.

Without flash.

In the inner corner, I used e.l.f.’s Aqua Beauty Molten Liquid Eyeshadow in Rose Gold, below. I think it’s best to dab this on with the applicator, which is like a lipgloss or liquid lipstick doe foot applicator, and then tap it in with your finger.

e.l.f.’s Aqua Beauty Molten Liquid Eyeshadow in Rose Gold. 4.00 on elfcosmetics.com & elsewhere.

I also spread this onto the inner corner of my lower lash line and I really like how it brightens the eyes and pairs with the coppery tones. For mascara I used a sample of Diorshow mascara I recently received and I actually really liked it.

Wet n’ Wild Liquid Catsuit Lipstick in Missy & Fierce. $4.69 at Target & elsewhere.

To finish the look I felt a red lip was the best way to tie it all together. I used Wet n Wild’s Megalast Liquid Catsuit in Missy & Fierce. I think this is such a perfect true red and looks great on all skin tones.

I love all these products and recommend them all to you. You can use any brown toned shadows and shimmery copper to do a similar smoky eye. I think this look would be perfect for a holiday party with your family, dinner party, work party holiday party with friends, almost any holiday outing!
Hope you are having a lovely Veteran’s Day weekend! (Thank you to all our vets and military families for your sacrifices)

🍗🍂🌽🍁💕🍪🎅👪🍬 

Happy pre-holiday preparations!

Love you all!

What are your thoughts on makeup looks for the holidays?

Feeling Festive / Holiday Makeup 

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I’m obsessed with my Wet n’ Wild Eye Candy Holiday palette! I gifted it to myself because why not? I highly recommend this holiday makeup set if you’re still scrambling around for a stocking stuffer or small gift. It’s a steal for 3.50, on sale, & you can find it at your local CVS. 

Pic from makeupwithahart.blogspot.com

I give Wet n’ Wild extra points for making cruelty free makeup. It goes without saying that they’re awesome for making high quality, highly-pigmented, unique eye shadows at an affordable price point. This palette contains two gorgeous green shades, which I used in this look, along with a lovely deep shimmery chocolate shade I’m dying to try with the pretty complementary shades in the set. 

The only color I didn’t use from the Eye Candy palette is from Elf’s Artistry palette, and is a bright green on the outer corner and crease.

It seems they made the palette with two looks in mind, one neutral brown smoky eye & one green smoky eye, somewhat like mine. I’m no makeup expert, but I’m pretty sure the palette also contains a duochrome on the green side. I’m in love with it. It has brown and purple undertones and looks deep emerald in the pan. I used that color for the outer corner. I used the lighter green on my lid and the deep forest green in the crease.

The lipstick I used shown above, is also by Wet n’ Wild. It’s their metallic creamy lipstick in Cashmere. Love it. My bronzer/highlighter/blush is Wet n’ Wild’s Megaglo Illuminating palette. The foundation I use is NYX’s Matte not Flat foundation and the concealer I use is Elf’s Under Eye Highlighter and Concealer. I use the same ones every day, except when I’m bumming it, in which case I just use BB cream. The Eye Candy set comes with a cute little eyeshadow primer and two lovely metallic eyeliners. I used the green one a bit in on the mid lid & bottom lid.

That’s my Christmas Eve look! I hope you enjoyed this post. I’m becoming more and more of a makeup freak. I blame Youtube and all you vloggers I adore; I love it!

Merry Christmas!