Letting Go of Toxic Friends

It’s hard to know when a friendship is no longer beneficial to our lives and instead hurting us, because it’s easy to make excuses for people and forget or undermine our own feelings.

Real friends vs. Toxic friends. Image from lifehack.org.

Sometimes we justify friendships because people have been in our lives for as long as we can remember, but this is not a good reason to keep a friendship alive that’s hurting you. If your friend is making you feel bad about yourself, pressuring you to spend an exorbitant amount of time with them, or making you feel like you have to do something that makes you uneasy, you can rest assured the relationship has switched from mutually beneficial to toxic.

Image from lifehack.org.

For reference, good friends build you up, are a source of joy, love, and encouragement, and are people you look forward to interacting with.

Illustration by lumimari. Lumimari.com.

You can pretty much guarantee that friendships are over when you notice any of these signs:

ยฐYou are constantly helping your friend out of one mess or another, be I to financial, emotional, or otherwise.

ยฐYour friend depends on you to do almost everything. If he /she wants to go out, it is almost expected that you be there. It’s almost as if you should have no life of your own because you coexist as one entity. If you ever feel like your personal identity is being robbed of you, speak up, and if that doesn’t work, run.

ยฐYou are constantly second guessing yourself, walking on eggshells, or feel pressured to do something. Whether your friend’s negative influence be putting you down or encouraging you to engage in substance abuse, it’s time to call it quits if you’re feeling like things are out of your control.

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I learned to let go of toxic friends the hard way. Many times I found myself bending way too much to please others and yielding way too many of my own views and values. Sometimes it seemed like it was too late to get away from a toxic influence. It never is though, make the decision and simply end communication gradually.

It’s best not to go cold turkey but to give the person some sort of warning. Otherwise, the person may lash out at you and lack any understanding of your motives for ending the relationship. Just like any other breakup, the person deserves at least the decency of knowing what went wrong. Try to address the issues but don’t go into any arguments or bitterness so as to not reopen any old feuds.

I wish you the best possible vibes with your friendship breakups. It’s not easy, but it must be done.

Have you ever struggled with letting go of people in your life? Feel free to comment below.

Love and light!

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Inspired by Dreamy Luisa Beccaria’s SS18 Line

I’m so into Luisa Beccaria’s gorgeous ethereal, and utterly dreamy SS18 line and I feel very drawn to its soft airy shapes and pretty pastels. It inspired this illustration above. I couldn’t think of a more spring/summer appropriate collection.

Luisa is my new favorite designer and I would get married in either of these two gowns above.

Mini e.l.f. Haul Plus Summer Bronzy Goddess Tutorial

I’ve loved e.l.f for what seems like forever for their affordable prices and bomb products. They’ve remained one of my favorite brands period for years as their quality just keeps getting better.

Mad for Matte Eyeshadow Palette in Summer Breeze by e.l.f. $10 at Target etc.

This palette has so many gorgeous shades and staples for both everyday and glam looks. The rosy shade is my new favorite transition shade.

I have been wanting to try the highly rated Mad for Mattes Summer Breeze Palette forever and finally got my hands on it.

Best Friend Duo in Peach Squad by e.l.f. at elfcosmetics.com. etc. $3.00.

I had a summer bronzed goddess look in mind ever since I received the stunning Cream Metallic Foil Shadow by Sahi Cosmetics in Doha in my Ipsy bag. I picked up the duo and palette above because of how well I thought those peachy summery shades would work with so many looks.

Cream Metallic Foil Shadow in Doha by Sahi Cosmetics. $22. Sahicosmetics.com.

The shadow is unlike any I’ve tried as it’s infused with jojoba oil and is incredibly creamy and foiled. It almost doesn’t even need a base and lasts all day. Its formula is comparable to ColourPop’s Super Shock Shadows.

I began by priming my lids with concealer. You can use whatever full coverage concealer is your fave. I like super matte ones as my lids are on the oilier side. To set my kids, I dusted e.l.f’s Beautifully Bare Sheer Tint Finishing Powder.

E.l.f.’s Beautifully Bare Sheer Tint Finishing Powder. $6.00 at CVS, etc.

This powder is perfect for setting both the lids as well as foundation and concealer. It has a slight tint as the name suggests, but it’s nothing super noticeable. It blends well on top of creams.

I then buffed the rosy color from the Mad for Mattes Palette and the peachy shade from the Best Friend Duo in the crease.

I then buffed the tan brown tones in the Mad for Matte Palette in the outer crease to intensify it.

After I placed the shimmery bronze color from the Best Friend Duo in the inner half of the eye with my finger. I then packed on the Doha shadow allover my lid with my finger.

I then highlighted my brow bone and inner corner with Milani’s Bella Eyes Gel Powder single shadow in Bella Chiffon.

Milani’s Bella Eyes Gel Powder Eyeshadow in Bella Chiffon. 4.49 at Walgreen’s, etc.

For lipstick I used a lippie from Maybelline’s 100 year celebration, Coral Cocktail, which I love for spring and summer.

That’s it!

I apologize that I’ve posted less over the past few weeks but I’ve had the flu / cold for two weeks and it really sucked. I think I’m almost in the clear and posting should get back on track, especially since I haven’t stopped buying makeup or coming up with ideas.

Thanks for reading. Love you all!

April 2018 Ipsy Bag Review

Usually there are some hits and misses in my glam bag every month. This month though, I was pleased with every one of the products. It seems the update on my profile is making a difference.

Pretty Woman Nail Polish in Girl Boss

This mauvey lavender color is so Spring-forward and gorgeous I couldn’t wait to put it on my nails when I opened the bag. It’s very wearable and won’t clash with certain outfits. I love polishes like these and this color is so me. I also love that the brand is cruelty free. I’ve been wearing it for a few hours and got intense color and opacity with two swipes. It is good quality and went on super easily. Ipsy’s website states it is “…long-wearing, crack and chip-resistant, and dries super fast (so drying time wonโ€™t slow you down).” We’ll see if it lives up to this description, but yay! I need more nail polishes like this.

Sahi Cosmetics Cream Metallic Foil Shadow in Doha

How amazing is this shade? It’s absolutely stunning in the pan and even more beautiful swatched. I can’t wait to do a look with it. I was interested and glad to find out that it’s infused with jojoba oil which helps hydrate the lids. Ipsy’s website describes the shade as “… coppery gold shade with crushed pearls thatโ€™s inspired by the city of Qatarโ€™s skyline at sunset (and we can totally see why).” Yes, so can I, and though I’ve gotten shades similar to this in my bag before, I will never stop loving super foiled metallics.

Skin & Co Roma Truffle Therapy Cleansing Cream

I love that this cleansing cream contains pure truffle extract and almond oil. Though this product is geared mainly towards people with dry and sensitive skin as it aims to protect skin’s natural moisture barrier and hydrate, and I have oily acne prone skin, I loved it because I also have sensitive skin and because it took all of my makeup off. Also, the smell is divine.

NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in Istanbul

I absolutely love this formula by NYX because of the smell and how cushiony it is. Despite the fact that it’s way more comfortable than other liquid lipsticks, my lips are usually so dry that only creamy lipsticks are comfortable enough to wear the whole day. I love the shade and the brand and can wear it with tons of lip balm underneath.

Purlisse Beauty Coconut Oil and Coffee Sugar Body Scrub

As a coffee addict and fiend, I was so stoked to see this in my bag. Not only is the smell absolutely delicious, but I’m in love with the end result. I haven’t really dabbled into body scrubs much, but can conclude this one is worth a try. The coconut oil is deeply moisturizing and the coffee is an excellent exfoliator for the body. Overall, I’m sold.

This has been one of my favorite Ipsy bags so far and I’m glad these products all are things I’ll be using a lot.

Have a beautiful day!

Festival Makeup: Glittery Crystal Teal, Cobalt, and Opal Lookย 

If I could live at Coachella, I might. Music, fashion, an excuse to go all out with your outfit and makeup, Beyoncรฉ, I mean.. What more could you ask for?! 

For my festival look I was inspired by desert tones, cacti, and starry skies. For those reasons, I used e.l.f’s Mad for Matte palette in Summer Breeze, Wet n Wild’s single eyeshadow in Bleached and Moonchild and Nyx’s Pigment, which is straight up glitter in peacock. 

Wet n Wild’s single glitter eyeshadow in Bleached. $1.48 at CVS, etc.

 Though my festival look may not be as outlandish as other you might’ve come across, I feel that it’s more important to consider what will outlast the heat best and go with the most outfits, thus being the most versatile yet festival-ready look I could muster. 

Nyx’s Pigment in Peacock. $6.49 Ulta, etc. 

I considered going the bejeweled third eye route but I’m not sure how well this would outlast the heat, though of course, it would surely make for good photos. 

I wanted to focus on implementing color and sparkle to the look becauseI was inspired by bright festival colors and the sunset and dusky summery tones of the desert and starry nights, so I went with teal and navy and lots of opalescent glitter. 

Wet n Wild’s single eyeshadow in Moonchild. $1.48 at CVS, etc.

I began by priming my lids with foundation, and used L’Orรฉal Pro-Matte founation. I normally don’t do this, and instead opt for either primer or an eyeshadow base, but I’ve seen others do this step, so I thought, why NOT? 

I was blown away by the Mad for Mattes palette. Its peachy shade is gorgeous and called out to me from the moment I saw it. I seriously love every shade in the palette and every one of them is creamy, blendable, and very useful. 

e.l.f’s Mad for Matte palette in Summer Breeze. $10 at Target, etc. 

I used the peachy apricot shade as my transition shade. I then dipped into my Lisa Frank bronzer to deepen up my crease and outer corner.

I patted the single glitter eyeshadow in Bleached on my entire lid. This has a sticky petroleum-jelly like consistency but is permeated with glitter in every way. The glitter is iridescent and reflects gold, blue, etc. I softened the edges of my crease and the transition between the glitter and warm tones with a gorgeous pinky peachy shade in an e.l.f Best Friend Eyeshadow duo called Peach Squad. 

e. l. f’s eyeshadow duo in Peach Squad. $3. Ulta, etc.

I love this shade and like the shadows in the made matte palette, it was creamy, blendable and dreamy as a crease shade. It lools much more salmon and pinkier n person than it does above, in my opinion. 

I then tapped some of the loose teal glitter pigment in Peacock from Nyx on my palm and grabbed some on a flat shader brush. I stuck it on to my lids pretty easily because the sticky Wet n Wild glitter was underneath.

Lastly lined my lower lashline with the cobalt blue single eyeshadow shade Moonchild by Wet n Wild and lined my water line with Nyx’s Faux Blacks Eyeliner in Blackberry.

I loved the final result and though it wasn’t exactly the looking I initially envisioned, I’m happy with it. 

Thanks so much for reading and I hope I helped inspire some festival / summery looks of your own. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐ŸŒต๐Ÿ’ž

Have a beautiful fun-filled weekend, whether you’re at Coachella or not. ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ’•